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Sunday, July 3, 2016

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator conundrum

Attended a fantastic session on Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and understanding what type of personality you are, how you can identify other personalities, and what you can do to better or improve on those relationships.



The first thing which struck me was the relationship between both trainers, Saif and Suhel. I've interacted with Suhel before so I know he's an extrovert. Saif was a clear cut introvert and it was interesting to observe many people observing him and concluding him to be an  extrovert.

One of the reasons for doing this post is because this session made me walk down memory lane.

During an interaction with a youth from church, when I was one of the overseeing leaders, about five years ago, probably... We had a session on introverts and extroverts. I remember someone saying: chelsea, you're a clear cut extrovert. That flummoxed me because for the longest time I believed myself to be an introvert. My reasoning came from the little knowledge that I had around this topic and its definitions, my growing up experiences, my understanding of myself at that point in life etc.

I've attended a few psychology sessions either through college, leadership programmes, youth fests (I'm very grateful to them), being a Parish Counsellor and lastly, voluntarily signing up for a 20 hour certification course on emotional intelligence.

To my mind, the last one left a big impression. For me, it was the turning point of 2014. And as I headed into 2015 I knew I would sink either further into the mess I was in or I'd have to make some drastic efforts.

The first six months, I thought to myself: 2015, my 30th is gonna be such a dud and the root cause of it will be: Me.

But when I look back at those first six months - saying goodbye to someone I never imagined I could ever let go of, moving from one office to another, licking my wounds in private, battling depression... To the next six months - moving to another city, additional responsibilities, learning to understand myself, coming to terms with things I believed I could never forgive, mentally becoming firm, experiencing some beautiful experiences and people, learning to laugh again, live again, love again.

2015 really was beautiful.

I know I've taken the MBTI tool as a free tool online. And I also know that score was the exact same as it was then and now.  So it's good that I kept true to my personality while attempting it both times. The first time made me aware, that I didn't have all the answers and neither did Google, that there are some damages which remain dormant cause we've subconsciously suppressed them but they exist and I needed to open that Pandora box and deal with it; in short, I needed help.

The session by Saif and Suhel - you can see the effort and the adjusting taking place because they are such different beings and they see situations so differently. I wanna focus on Saif because he has, I believe to work twice as hard to put himself out there... Especially in the role of a trainer. I mean, come on, expecting an Introvert to be a trainer... Nope. But that's my point... He's excelled at it and it is because of his will to succeed in areas where people challenged him by saying - he couldnt, he's flexed himself, he's molded himself. It's not to say he's not the best version of himself just because he is an introvert. It's to say that he has the best of both worlds today, he's on a much higher plane because he's moved his EI a notch above the rest.

I took awhile to read him and wasn't very open to his style of communication. But within 10 minutes, I was hooked. I was able to see what he was trying to communicate through his personal examples, a different view of the challenges at hand in my life. I truly believe that when people share their life stories, their experiences,  we must listen. It is through these interactions we are made whole, we see the world through other people's lives and also get a little clarity on our own space.

I saw passion in Saif's presentation style, his observing technique, the extra effort he put in to get his message across, asking people to keep their phones aside, getting a clock, the madness behind his methodologies, he thoroughly enjoys what he does... Which seems like a "How is that even possible for an introvert" question. I really appreciate people who are passionate. There are so many of us just existing because one must exist.

So, thank you, Saif. You've got me curious to learn more about my personality. In fact, last night I began reading about it, the positives and the downfalls and I hope I learn to have much meaningful relationships in life always.